I don’t think I’ve come across a single wedding that didn’t have some kind of “Bold and The Beautiful” drama attached to it, in some way.
Forget dresses, forget cars, just coordinating the bridal party can become a mini-series all in itself.
In a perfect world, your bridal party all get along perfectly – in fact your single best man and single bridesmaid hook up and eventually plan a wedding of their own. Just like a Disney film.
However, when is life ever perfect? and when does EVERYONE get along ALL the time?
The decision of who should be in your bridal party isn’t one to be made without some serious thought or without considering your soon to be husband/wife’s feelings.
Take for example a story I was told over the weekend.
A Bride was telling me of the dread that she had all through the wedding because of her husband’s choice of Best Man. The Bride and Best Man had never got along, in fact they had exchanged some very heated words at another friend’s wedding and did the very best they could to avoid each other at all costs.
Bride spent the entire reception worried that the Best Man was going to use the opportunity of his speech to humilate and embarrass her infront of their guests and family.
Can you imagine feeling all that anxiety on what is supposed to be one the happiest days of your life?
It does lead itself to hot debate:
- Does one partner get to veto a bridal party member?
- In this instance, should the groom have invited someone else to stand beside him on the day, or to put it in gangster terms is it “bros before … you know what”?
By all means, jump in here with your own thoughts and opinions.
I’m sure it happens in weddings all the time. Bridesmaids and Groomsmen hate each other, Brides and Best Mates are at loggerheads, Grooms and Bridesmaids cannot speak two words to each other… and I guess what I am asking is, where do you draw the line?
Who compromises in this situation if it is all but impossible for issues to be put aside?
If you know your friends can’t behave like grownups – even for your sake – what do you do when your bridal party is bringing you down?
